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Adding a 2nd Submissive – HELP
Dom and I have been talking for months about him adding a sub. Our dynamic is DDlg and I’m not really in to pain so the idea was to find more of a “pain sub” for him to have sessions with. In my understanding of it, this was to be strictly for “play” as he and I are in a committed relationship.
We found a sub that we agreed he would pursue and she seemed very open to the idea and respectful of our relationship. They started to talk more, go out etc with the purposes of getting to know each other before having a session. They discussed things like limits, rules etc and simply got to know each other with that purpose.
Then something else happened… they began texting all day everyday. They started to share a connection that was more than a friendship and I’m aware of this because my Dom has been very honest with me even sharing messages with me etc.
So far they’ve only had one actual session physically but their “relationship” via text has continued. It deeply worries me that he has FEELINGS for another woman. He says that it is simply the connection and it is good for the D/s play time they will share and that he could never love anyone but me. He wants to continue the relationship and include whatever boundaries I need.
I am normally not jealous at all but this is driving me CRAZY. Just today he asked how I felt about him picking her up after work and I got so angry. The submissive part of me really wants to please him and so even when he offered to completely end the relationship I said “No, I want to grow from this” … because his fullness just means so much to me.
But how the hell can I feel better about this? Anyone else add as sub to their relationship?
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