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A little lost :/
Me and my Sir really enjoy D/s in the bedroom and would love to bring it into our everyday but We seem to get lost.
I see him with the kids and how strict he can be and from the bedroom I know there’s a very dominant man in him but daily he’s got no confidence.
If there’s any kind of decision to make he decides I have to decide and he’s always passing everything to me.
When I’m ill etc he’s amazing and thoughtful but when I’m not he’s very passive, and any decision he does make isn’t thought through and normally isn’t realistic, and I end up having to counter him with logic to a realistic option (like what should we do today? He’ll say “we can go do this expensive thing?” And i have to say “no we can’t we don’t have money”) and I feel like me doing this doesn’t help his dominant headspace but then I can’t not do it cus it’s stuff we physically can’t do, which he knows but doesn’t think :/
I have spoken to him about this and it always goes the same way but doesn’t change, he also struggles with coming away from it sexually, while I was pregnant he wouldn’t do any of it because he can’t find non sexual punishments, he has tried to get me to do research for him but doesn’t get that me telling him how to punish me really isn’t the way :/
I’m wondering if I should just give up on this or if anyone has been here and managed through it?
I was the one who bought the style into our relationship and would be sad to give up the hope for it to work but I’m feeling a little hopeless 🙁
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