Sexual energy is usually described as something noticed when attracted to someone. Our bodies can feel a rush and our private areas feel a “tingly heat”. Your heart begins to pound and you feel excited or “turned on”. This is a superficial explanation to something that is so much more, or SHOULD be. Could sexual energy just only be our RAW animal instincts? I began Dominance and submission due to reading a book. It was so inspiring because of the emotion and sexual energy that the couple in the book shared. I knew it would fit us like a glove.
When Mr Fox and I started to do our scenes/play it was PURE MAGIC, actual ELECTRICITY passed between us. We felt it, others felt it. So we began to reveal more of what our deepest desires and experiment until we created and put into practice this energy between us, a drug, neither of us can EVER give up. In our journey of 7 years in D/s and even in creating a method for married couples to enjoy D|s-M magic, we only had scraped the surface of the possibilities that sexual energy has to offer.
All couples have a vast capability & talent for sexual energy, which sadly we leave untapped. This sexual energy is not only a real part of our life force, but it has the power, when used properly, to heal your body, minds and spirit. Sexual energy can bring you endless amounts of pleasure, change your mindset and bring you a full spiritual awakening. First, sexual energy helped me find myself, find my strength. Second, IT SAVED MY MARRIAGE! D|s-M saved us. Raw sexual energy worked for us and we now know how to work it. Now we are going deeper at, MidLifeIntimacy.com.
It Feels Like
The sexual energy that I have experienced can be hot or cold. It feels electric. It’s a pull or a push. I can even describe it as a sound, a buzzing. Sometimes its a state of mind or a color you feel yet may not see. It’s red, yellow, blue, white. It can take you outside of yourself. It can take you sooo deep internally that you never want to return back into yourself. When you learn to harness it with your husband or partner and use it together it makes you and what you’re doing together magical, unstoppable and irrevocably part of you and your relationship. Your husband has his part in it just as you have yours. Your purpose is different than his and you both work toward different internal goals.
The First Time
The first time I tasted it was when Mr. Fox had me standing with my wrists cuffed above my head, used the flogger among other tools on my body until my mind was happily flying. He took me down and we began to have sex, I laid on my back, yet I could see Mr. Fox’s back. I could feel his sweat falling on my forehead yet I could see his muscles straining in his back and ass. So, my mind then did something, the magic started happening, I opened my body to him further, I began wanting to work my body for him. I moved and worked hard to connect with this invisible energy he had, that I could see. I had to make sure his energy would connect with mine. It did and I was sold FOREVER!
What You Share
You and your husband will share something so special that you may not be able to share with anyone else ever. Hell, you may not have shared sexual energy as of yet in your D|s-M dynamic. I know that even if Mr. Fox and I shared sexual energy with anyone else it wouldn’t or couldn’t be the same as what we have achieved together. Your experiences can not be duplicated with anyone else. You may never be able to achieve what you have with him ever again. That’s why if it’s good, you should coddle it, shape it and treat it with great care. You both have made your very own sexual energy finger print. Your sexual mixture is unique, no two the same. This connection will open things inside of you and him that you may have never seen or may have only suspected in the past.
New vulnerabilities will come into play as you share and connect in your sexual energy. We as submissives know about this a little bit already with the play we have already experienced. We have experienced connection with our own sexual energy but may have not ever connected with our husband’s sexual energy. It can be a little scary and confusing knowing that your husband has this energy that if you take your sexual energy and connect it with his, can create something so wonderful and maddening. Sexual energy pulls things out of us, things that can be wonderful but alarming and or disarming and questionable. Knowing this energy lives in you and your partner has the control to open you up, this can and will create new vulnerabilities.
Warning, sexual energy is raw and animalistic. You will NOT be able to give it up. You must learn to tame it and control it and use it for the good of your marriage. This type of energy is powerful but fragile. Very important fact, YOU BOTH have to commit to working together to control and shape it. It is your own very personal brand of heroin. Most alarming, your sexual energy wants the hook up to happen again and again.
Communications about your sexual energy exchanges or power exchanges are essential. Downtime or aftercare snapshots are advised so that you both can take care of those vulnerabilities that you both are bringing to the surface. After all that I have experienced, if you let it run wild and become a victim to it, either of you, it can destroy parts of you and your marriage.
I love, love. I love sexual energy and how it can heal and build a couple’s intimacy. How it can make you feel powerful when you’re working to find weakness so that your someone can take it, break you and build you again. There are many other techniques and methods that we have yet to examine and break down into achievable pieces that can be used for married, midlife & monogamous couples. There are many ways to harness, use and find pleasure in these techniques that use sexual energy. TO BE CONTINUED…….
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Have you experienced sexual energy? What did it feel like? What were you doing when it happened to you? Did your partner share in the experience? Do you believe in taking it further? Does the idea of it excite you? We can chat about it at our submissive LIVE VIDEO CHAT! Watch the calendar, Sexual Energy Video Chat, TBA…..