International Fetish Day was brought into existence January 16, 2009.  It was established as a day to recognize and support the BDSM community.  International Fetish Day was also intended to encourage members of the lifestyle to be more open regarding their sexuality.  Since its inception people from all over the world have come together to celebrate not only our differences but also to celebrate our similarities within the lifestyle.

Since our Dominance and submission culture is so tightly join to BDSM it only seems appropriate that we celebrate the day as well.

Perverts Wear Purple

It has become tradition that on International Fetish Day members of the BDSM community wear purple in an effort to support our culture.

It was by design that members of the BDSM community could participate in this celebration from all over the world and do so while hiding in plain sight. Purple is widely used in many BDSM circles however, wearing purple would not out you and your secret desires to the rest of the vanilla world around us.

There has been some contention and controversy that sounds the slogan, “Perverts Wear Purple”. Many practitioners of the BDSM lifestyle have been separating themselves from the label of ‘pervert’.


The word pervert actually means a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable. The definition of pervert is not abnormal or unacceptable, it is both.

Mr Fox and I along with many of our members have been making great efforts to bring Dominance and submission into mainstream and acceptable to the general population. We believe that it will take an education process along with a deliberate and consistent message, that will help remove the taboo and stigma that we all currently carry. In the past many practitioners reveled in the mysterious darkness of our lifestyle. Today, Mr Fox and I want to lead the way for married couples, enabling them to shine their lights bringing Dominance and submission out of the darkness and into the light.

Wear Purple this Friday January 18, 2019

Join us this year in celebrating our culture and our roots. Participation, by design, allows us to protect our anonymity while publicly displaying our approval and participation in the art of Dominance and submission or BDSM. This may also be a fun submissive Challenge that you can do with your husDOM, Dominant husband. Ask your Sir if you both can participate. Spice up your participation by wearing purple panties or laying out his purple tie or dress shirt. You can use purple lipstick on private spaces on yourself or your Dominant. Incorporate something purple in both your days.

Take a minute and post a comment about some “purple ideas” to do in participation this year.

Your Thoughts

I am curious as to what the rest of you think about the ongoing debate regarding the ‘Perverts Wear Purple’ slogan. Do you think that the slogan is alright and that we should simply support or do you believe that we should change the slogan to something else? For example, “Practitioners Wear Purple.” Please share you thoughts in the comments. If you are in preference of changing the slogan please add some ideas of what you would like the slogan to be if you could have your way.

  1. Wench amb/Buck 5 months ago

    I like the idea of being supportive and wearing purple 🙂
    The term pervert has so many negative aspects- and we are trying to be positive and make positive and respectful impact. I don’t have a purple slogan to propose though.

    Just my thought-

  2. subMischief/Red 5 months ago

    This is a fun idea! I went looking through my closet though and I don’t have any purple clothing. Kind of surprised me! I do have some items that are purple but I can’t wear those in public. My play collar and cuffs are purple leather! So maybe tonight I’ll ask Sir to put them on me. 😉💜💜💜

    As for the “Perverts wear purple” slogan.. I’m not in favor of that. As was said earlier, pervert has such a negative connotation. My Sir and I will jokingly call each other perverts but that is with sarcastic humor. I can’t think of a slogan that would work better. It was probably chosen for the simple fact that the “vanilla” world looks at our lifestyle as strange and abnormal and some people wear that as a badge. I think it also rolls off the tongue. “Perverts wear Purple”. It’s not perfect but I can see where people were coming from when using that as a slogan.

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      LK Founder D|s-M 5 months ago

      I feel the same… Pervert is a negative term if you want it to be… or you can use it in a light hearted way and it takes on a differ meaning… Thanks for commenting!


  3. Angelica *AMB/BigOne 5 months ago

    I love this idea. Wearing purple is a fun way to secretly celebrate with like-minded (ish) people from all over the kink community. I think I will go out and buy some purple bath paints today and surprise Sir with some purple, soapy fun in the shower tonight. My mind will be looking for purple people like crazy today! LOL

    I do NOT like the association of TTWD with perversion. I know people use the word jokinhgly all the time, and it has less of a sting because of its common use, but it is actually used both in legal and psychiatric settings to label people. So, I am all for getting this community, in particular, out of the “Perv” box.

    These are the slogans that come to mind for me right off the bat….I’d have to give it some more thought: “Purple Passion” or “Passionately Purple”, “Partial to Purple”, “Pleased to be Purple”, “Purple and Primal” “Purple and Proud”, etc.

  4. I’m not a fan of the word!!I I agree with Angelica & Wench the meaning behind pervert is ugly and negative!! It’s a term used for people when they commit a sexual crime. No thanks!! I really like all of Angelica’s suggestions!!

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      LK Founder D|s-M 5 months ago

      Thanks lady, I agree as well…. But people can only call it wrong if they think it is…. We have to show people that TTWD there is nothing wrong it is what it is… MIDLIFE< MARRIED< MONOGAMOUS! We are married couples exploring and building on our intimacies!HUGS! lk

  5. BelleSoumise/Greyson 5 months ago

    What a fun and intellectual topic LK! I love to debate the wonders of BDSM. I also like slogans. Angelica’s slogan, “Purple and Proud” has a great vibe. I am thinking of a slogan…”My love is purple.” I don’t like the word pervert or perverted because it turns me completely off. As a survivor of sexual abuse, the word pervert has a terrible connotation to me. In my mind, a pervert does his/her dirty work without consent. I can understand the word being used in a humorous way, but I cannot relate to that usage. When I am practicing D|s-M my heart feels clean and not dirty or perverted. I feel like I’m soaring in the clouds or being cleansed by my Dom. Maybe I am a weirdo? Scratch that…I am a weirdo!

    Thank you for the engaging posts and comments friends. I love this community.

    Warmest regards,
    Belle Soumise

  6. Missy/Sirtomissy 5 months ago

    LK in Australia my work supports some things. One thing is to wear purple in support for LGTB community. Some people dislike it, I think it’s excellent they are moving with the times. Lots of staff get behind it 😊

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      LK Founder D|s-M 5 months ago

      Hi Missy, we have missed you! Thanks for commenting! I think fetish and other lifestyles are gaining and becoming mainstream and acceptable …. We try to bring light into the darkness and show others its not a scary ugly dirty place like they may have been lead into previously!

      HUGS! lk

  7. Yozakura-prema 4 months ago

    “Perverts wear purple” is just not ok. Kink shaming needs to STOP already!

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