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2022 World Humiliation Day | Erotic Humiliation

January 3 All day

2022 World Humiliation Day | Twisted Calendar Holiday

Erotic Humiliation

January 3, 2022

Today’s Vanilla Holiday is 2022 World Humiliation Day. This day was originally created to raise awareness of the negative effects caused by humiliation. Humiliation is a negative impression placed upon someone by other persons. Someone’s wrong doings or behaviors can result in humiliation. Intimidation, physical or mental mistreatment, or causing embarrassment can be forms of humiliation. Humiliating a person can make them lose his/her self-respect and dignity. Vanilla-wise, this day gives people a chance to acknowledge one’s own misconduct. Then they apologize to those who were treated badly.  But, on subMrs, we want to Twist this Calendar Holiday! 

Today/Tonight we celebrate, or at least discuss, what humiliation means in D|s-M or TTWD, (This Thing We Do.)

You can practice Erotic Humiliation in different levels in Married Dominance and submission.  Humiliation can be a real TURN ON or TURN OFF for a subMrs.

What is Erotic Humiliation?

Erotic humiliation is consensual psychological humiliation. It is performed in order to produce erotic excitement or sexual arousal. Humiliation is subjective, which means it can be whatever you feel it is.  It also depends on context. What humiliates one person may not humiliate another. Furthermore, it does not have to be sexual in nature.  It is the feelings that are gained from the experience that are desired; not necessarily the actual activity being performed. Even a spanking can be humiliating, if done in the right context.

The person being humiliated normally feels submissive. Consequently, the person causing the humiliation feels more dominant. Humiliation can make the submissive feel turned on, shocked, and “put in her/his place.”  It can make the submissive feel lower than, or beneath, the Dominant.  Thus, almost all BDSM activities can be a form of humiliation in the correct context. 

Erotic humiliation can be done verbally, physically, or both.  It can be either private or public.  It can also become a ritual and is easily carried out over a long distance, such as online.  This is a prime example of the power dynamic that exists in a Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationship. 

Humiliation play can, however, be taken too far.  It may become emotionally or mentally distressing to either the husDOM or the subMrs.  This is especially true if it is public humiliation. Erotic humiliation can become extreme enough to be considered a form of edgeplay.  It can be an emotionally intense experience. This means advance discussion and use of safewords is a must! 

Forms of Erotic Humiliation

  • insulting the submissive, name calling (slut, whore, cumslut)
  • making the submissive display their breasts, ass, or vagina/penis to a group of people
  • urinating or defecating on the submissive
  • cumming on the submissive
  • making the submissive perform a degrading task
  • verbally reprimanding the submissive in public
  • Face slapping

This is by no means an exhaustive list.  Erotic humiliation can be enjoyed in many, many ways. Do what feels good to you.

In Conclusion

Anyone engaging in this practice should understand and respect of their partner’s limits. Erotic humiliation can destroy a submissive’s self-esteem and ruin a great relationship.  So it is very important to discuss and plan carefully!  Also, check in constantly.  And aftercare is doubly important after this type of scene.  The submissive needs to knows that they’re cherished, cared for, and respected. Later, in downtime, talk about it.  HusDOM and subMrs should both discuss their  thoughts and feelings. Journaling can also help sort out your feelings and thoughts.

Erotic humiliation is not for everyone.  If it really bothers you, then reject it.  However, if it looks interesting, try it!  You may have just found a fetish you love. 



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