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What To Do When You Don't Want To Do Something
For the most part Sir finds me to be an obedient sub. He feels I have made some very good progress and that things are going well. Our overall relationship has improved nicely. There is one issue that we were discussing this morning and I thought it might be good to inquire of the collective wisdom and experience.
There are times that the last thing I want to do is what was requested of me. I am think of things like getting a request first thing in the morning right when I have awoken, finally sitting down after tackling a bunch of household chores, or just when I am already in the middle of something. I have certain routines and habits that I have done for over 20 years that, frankly, are a little challenging to alter. For instance, as soon as I wake in the morning, the first order of business is to check the calendar and make coffee. After I have done these things, I am fine to do something else. On a work day, the routine is the same every day and pretty much timed so I can get out the door on time. To be asked to do something that is not part of the tasks of the work puts me behind, and something may not be done or be not done as well. This could even mean not getting to eat breakfast.
I have been told that when I am asked to do something that I don’t want to do at that exact moment, I have a slight sigh of frustration. I didn’t even realize I did it until it was pointed out to me. Then I caught myself one day. It is very disappointing to Sir.How do others handle these feelings and situation? I would love to hear your thoughts.
Natasha
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Thank you for posting this, it made me think about how I react to requests, not only from Mr. but from others. I know my face is the hardest thing to control! This is something I want to work on.
I wonder why your Sir is making requests of you during your busiest moments and routines? Do you think it’s because he’s trying to find a way to make you slow down, break the routine, be more flexible, refocus you on your relationship? Maybe if you can look at the motivation behind his requests, you’ll find new meaning and purpose to fulfilling them. Or maybe not, LOL! I know that my Mr. tries very hard to read me and give what I need when he sees something, and he often sees it before I do. Maybe yours is doing the same. But if you don’t think that’s the case, then it’s certainly worth a conversation during downtime. I doubt he would want you to be missing breakfast.
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Mr. Brought this up a few days ago. He said when he tells me to do something or he overrides me on something I make a “face” that says “I’m just going to keep my mouth shut”. He said it’s not very submissive at all and wants me to work.on it.
BUT in my defense I was a huge lover of arguing. Proving a point. Getting my way. So me just shutting up is very challenging and we’re only 6 weeks in.
So I asked him if I could have a little more time and tackle one issue at a time. Phew.
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Hmmm, I seem to also make “that face”. I’ve been trying so hard, and Sir tells me that I am such a good sub that he finds it hard to find reasons to spank me. However, I still seem to get my back up at times. I really need to work on that. I just wish he wouldn’t pick times like on our way to a party to bring something up. I know my reaction was totally wrong, I really have to figure out a better way. I will.
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Mr. Told me to practice in the mirror lol it has helped a little. I definitely see the face he’s referring too and I’m working on a more submissive facial expression as my go to.
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Thank you all for the thoughtful replies. Sometime I feel that things come easily to everyone else and that I shouldn’t struggle with some of these things. Reading your comments made me realize that many of us struggle. I appreciate the food for thought and the advice. I really need to work on the “face!”
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Morning Glory, that’s a really interesting concept. I shall try that out, thank you!
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Great shares, thoughts…I too find almost everyday …We all have struggles with similar things. I am taking pieces of all these shares to help me. BIG, one to do better on processing information before I react !
Hearts to all ,
Cs
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